It has been so long since I last wrote about me, myself and I. Anyone who doesn’t know me would think I am obsessed with myself and anyone who actually knows me would totally agree. I have enjoyed my ride here so far. I first started with the wedding discussions, went on to discuss different things that went well during my day. I took a long break as I focused on studying for my exams and applying to Graduate School. I am done with that part. But now I want to find something new to discuss. Ideas are definitely welcomed.
But while I wait for your ideas. Let’s talk about Appearance.
Appearance is such a broad term to explain. It could refer to your physical features, your clothes, style, or the way you talk and represent yourself. I used to be a person (or so I thought) who did not worry much about what she looked like. I did not worry about looking “beautiful” or “impressing the boys by dressing up”. On the other hand, these things were always there but never expressed or understood freely by me. I weighed 88 lbs in high school and I weigh 120 lbs after my Bachelor’s and been consistently going up and down around that. So I was never voluptuous but I was not thin either.
It all started when I came to the US and was constantly complimented on my weight and consistently told. “Ahh…you are so thin”. I loved the attention to a certain extent but when I gained weight, I was told to loose my FAT. These are also the same people who once appreciated my weight, became my friends and called me “you look anorexic” to being called “fat”. Should I have taken their perspectives seriously, I would have been hospitalized. I did go through a period of time when I got conscious about my weight because I was around people who constantly expressed concerned about their own. I was influenced.
I had to remind myself of who I am, what I am and why I am. I practiced a little bit of exercise and gave up but did change a little bit to my diet for healthy food. I am thankful today to look at myself in the mirror and appreciate who I am and the way I look. But unfortunately, many youngsters are not easily enlightened about such intense issues. Labeling is an issue that goes around you through children or adults. But how do we change such perspectives of people around us? Through Awareness. I had a friend who constantly made me feel bad about my “FAT” and commented on it day and night whenever she saw me. Overtime, I realized that she referred to weight at least once in her conversation to others as well. Then, one day she made the same comment and my reply to her was that I am confident about what I look like and I am sorry you don’t feel the same about your body. Little did I know, the empowerment helped her realize how rude she had been. Although she did not apologize, she did say “No…I feel better about my body now”. The rest is history with me. No worries about weight and nor do I judge others on it.
I wish some people would take care of their weight in a better way. However, I am aware that people gain weight due to medications they take or other diagnosis they might have. Judging them from a distance is not going to disclose their inner conditions and with respect to them, I refuse to judge them on their weight. I have friends who are thin, few extra pounds and over-weight and they tend to be wonderful people who have helped me through my thick and thin.
Let’s get together and bring awareness of how beautiful everyone is.
Share your views about weight experiences. I would like to enjoy some of your own stories.
Until then…Appreciate your inner beauty!!!!!